A lot of young men have no concept of what it takes to be a man. Some guys have been blessed and have had older brothers or a father to teach them about being a man. Other guys haven’t been so lucky.
The laws of manhood have been around since man existed. These rules were designed and passed on from generation to generation in order to help men become better men. However, every now and then, society changes and thus, so do the laws of manhood.
The first law or law of manhood is that a man must provide. A man must provide for his family, whether it be providing food, shelter, or protection.
A man with no material possessions is not much of a man; because of that, a man must always strive to be prosperous and not fall into the void of poverty.
In this article, I am going to show you 9 vital laws of manhood.
1. Know the Rule of Exchange
A lot of my people don’t understand the importance of knowing the rules of exchange. You need to walk away when someone doesn’t return your respect or time.
Respect will be given and got! Time will be given and respected! You can’t do wrong if your intentions are right.
No matter how much time you spend on one thing, it can still be destroyed by doing something wrong. Whether in a relationship, business, or friendship. Respect for a person is earned.
If you don’t like someone, that’s fine. If you don’t take the time to know them, you’ll never get to that level. Spend time with people who deserve your time!
We should all be guided by some sort of manhood law of exchange, respect time, grow, learn and be great at what we do.
2. Be Financially Smart
You don’t need to be rich to have a high income. In fact, you don’t even have to have a college degree.
Money is the scorecard for success and security. A high income gives you freedom, power and control over your time. This is why having that first big paycheck can feel like winning the lottery.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a nice house, a nice car, or a nice vacation. But I was starting to realize that getting those things might not put me in the position I wanted most: being able to work on my own terms, on my own schedule, and do work that I loved.
3. Have a Strong Posture
Your posture can make or break your first impression. Forward head posture, hunched back, and even rounded shoulders cause you to come off as a weak, non-confident person.
A good posture makes you appear larger, more powerful, and more confident. It also allows you to breathe better, and move more freely and can help relieve back pain.
Besides, your posture is something you didn’t give much thought to until someone raised a red flag. Forward head posture and hunchbacks can get you labelled as a nerd.
Before anyone says anything about your posture, their subconscious is already judging you. Posture is more important than you think.
If you have poor posture, people will assume you are insecure, less confident and not trustworthy, regardless of the reality.
It’s common sense that when people walk into a building, they don’t want to look like they’re entering a nursing home.
In addition to the cost of workplace furniture, there’s the cost of productivity loss from having lower morale and higher stress levels because your workforce looks tired, slouchy and old.
One study found that poor posture leads to a 29% increase in sick days for office workers. Another study concluded that having poor posture may lead to a 25% higher risk of heart disease.
4. Don’t Submit to Peer Pressure
Make decisions based on what you like. Don’t do something because it will be funny for your peers. Force yourself to be respectful, even if others around you are being disrespectful.
Don’t let others pressure you into doing wrong things.
Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself if peers put you down or try to force you into doing something unsavoury. Use your voice and tell the people who try to pressure you that what they are doing is wrong.
5. Be Confident With Humility
A wise man once said, “the most important thing in life is to be rather than to seem.” I am a firm believer that everyone has something inside of them that is worth sharing with the world.
I feel this way for more than just the celebrities and athletes we have access to today. I feel this way for everyone.
What’s stopping you from doing what you love and sharing your passion with the world? Do you feel insecure about your work? Do you not like how you look? Are you worried that people won’t listen to what you have to say? Are you afraid of being judged or dismissed because of your background?
There are a lot of reasons why a person might feel like they need to fit in or hide their authentic self. However, I believe it’s important to express yourself on your own terms. Over time, I’ve learned that acting “cocky” does not make someone feel confident — it makes them feel like a hole.
6. Make Eye-contact
For thousands of years, humans have developed a system of nonverbal communication that’s based on reading each other’s eye movements. Eye contact isn’t rude and aggressive; it shows confidence!
There are laws of manhood, and one of them is making eye contact. First off, not making eye contact is just plain weird and rude.
For some people, it’s a learned behaviour. They were raised that way, or they got lost somewhere along the way, and it became a habit.
If you don’t have the guts to look people in the eye, you will be perceived as weak, immoral and dishonest.
7. Solve Problems
Problems are inevitable in life. They can be small, like an aching back or big as a flat tire. We all have problems, but we also have the opportunity to solve them by creating solutions. You can’t solve your problems unless you identify them first.
Next, you must figure out what caused the problem and then develop a solution to prevent it from happening again.
When solving problems, it’s important to remember to stay calm. Getting emotional only prolongs the agony and makes it more likely you’ll make hasty decisions instead of solving the problem correctly. I learned this lesson when I was younger and got upset when I lost my contact lens on a school field trip.
I didn’t have time to return home to get another pair because we had scheduled weekly events. Instead of coming home and getting another pair, I had to wear my glasses all week, making me feel self-conscious.
8. Don’t Be Needy
You shouldn’t need that girl or group of friends. Goals you are committed to. Whether it be school, sports, work, or family, it’s important to be focused on what you want and not just wait for something to come your way.
That kind of attitude does not work for your relationships. It doesn’t matter if you are in the prime of your life; staying busy with your own life will keep people from coming in and taking over.
9. Take Control
What’s the manliest thing you’ve done? Chances are you’re thinking about some feat of strength; maybe you’re reminiscing about a time you took action to protect those you love.
Strength and courage are good things for men, but there’s a problem: Most people think manliness is all about strength, courage and grit.
Take action even if no one is taking it. Don’t wait for other people to do it. Take your actions to go ahead.