Not many people think of mental strength as something to strive for; we usually think of self-control, perseverance, and mindfulness when discussing the strength of our mind. What we don’t realize is the most important thing that mentally strong people never do.
Mentally strong people understand that nothing can be achieved by completing tasks at a sub-par level. It’s only through consistent and complete effort that we can accomplish anything.
In this article, I’ll discuss 6 things mentally strong people always do. Let’s dive in.
1. They Choose to Be Happy
They know who they are. They’ve taken the time to figure out what their values and priorities are, what their strengths and weaknesses are, what their greatest strengths and greatest weaknesses are, etc.
They’re not afraid of failure. They know that failure is a necessary step on the road to success, so they don’t try to avoid it. Instead, they embrace it. They use a brush-off technique such as “Failures teach more than successes ever will,” or “If you’re not failing, you’re not really trying.”
They create a support network for themselves. Mentors, friends, family members – anyone in their lives who can support them and provide encouragement at tough times – are critical.
In addition, empathy is a good way to be kind and happiness is the best way to fight depression, anxiety and other mental issues.
Mentally strong people appreciate life and they know how to enjoy it. The last and the most important point, mentally strong people are happy because they want to be. They don’t do it for others’ approval and they sure as hell don’t do it because it’s cool to be happy.
And you probably know someone who is mentally strong even if you don’t realize it. That “someone” might be your friend, parent, mentor or even you.
2. They Are Not People Pleasers
Studies have shown that people who are mentally strong have no problem saying no to people. They don’t care what others think of them. They say no when they want to and they are not afraid to hurt other people’s feelings.
They are not afraid to say no when someone oversteps their boundaries. They won’t feel pressured to attend an event that they are not interested in. They know to put themselves first before others.
The tendency of wanting to please everyone is a very big mistake that many people make. If you are not strong enough mentally, it will make you bend your own rules and constantly compromise. If you want to become mentally strong, you have to learn how to prioritize yourself above the needs of others.
The benefits you reap from going your own way will help you stay mentally strong. You won’t feel pressured to please other people, which can be draining in the long run.
You get more time to relax and recharge, which is essential for staying in good mental health. You won’t feel like you’re someone else’s puppet and can be your own boss.
You don’t have to live up to everyone else’s expectations or standards of behavior. Let me tell you this, being mentally strong isn’t easy, it takes practice and perseverance.
Start by being good to yourself first before pleasing anyone else. Furthermore, here are three things mentally strong people always do:
1. They set boundaries
2. They don’t blame anyone but themselves
3. They forgive easily
3. They Reflect Often or at the End of the Day
Most of us use our phones to look through social media before going to bed or even think about answering work emails in our free time.
As a result, we often get exhausted and don’t know why. We tend to obsess over information, which distracts from the most important thing: ourselves.
When you step back and think about it, it is mentally draining for us to be so preoccupied with what others are doing all the time. Wouldn’t it be better if we could take more time to ask ourselves questions such as: what am I doing with my life? and what can I do about that?
Why does this happen? It is because we forget the most important thing to focus on: the self. We have become a generation that is obsessed with comparing ourselves with others.
When you become mentally strong, you are able to question your behaviour in a constructive way and think of ways how you can improve. Only when you question your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours can they be changed and improved.
Mentally strong people reflect often or at the end of the day when they are alone. Only then can they bring their curiosity and creativity out of their minds.
The truth is that we are constantly evolving as individuals. The same way we have successfully overcome many challenges in life, we will continue to do so when facing new hurdles in our lives.
4. They Tackle the Difficult Tasks First
The results of the recent survey have shown that about 99% of people, including self-proclaimed mentally strong and successful individuals, believe that success requires mental strength. This tendency is so strong that it leads to difficult tasks being ignored, postponed, or never addressed at all.
When seeing a task or difficult scenario, mentally strong people always address it first. They don’t hesitate to take care of an uncomfortable situation. They don’t run from the truth, know that there’s no time like the present and that tomorrow will not be easier (or more comfortable) than today.
Mental strength is often associated with the ability to overcome challenging situations, to continue in the face of adversity, and persevere when faced with obstacles.
Mentally strong people accomplish a great many things in life. They are impeccable at time management and they’ve developed the ability to focus their efforts on the most important tasks.
They are also speed demons at executing what they set out to do. It is a necessity for moving forward through life. It is the difference between success and mediocrity.
5. They Listen to Their Bodies
Mentally strong people always listen to their bodies. They are aware of the warning signs that indicate the need for them to change their habits. Mental strength is an elusive goal for many people who tend to ignore the signs that indicate their bodies are in distress.
An unhealthy body will always have a negative effect on the mind. Chronic stress will eventually cause a dip in mental performance and lead to illness.
The food you consume affects the way your body feels, this is why mentally strong people always listen to their bodies.
The mental strength of an individual is only as good as his or her physical condition. A mentally strong individual is someone who makes a conscious effort to eat a balanced diet and interacts with the world in a positive manner.
6. They Don’t Multitask
If you won’t do something right, don’t do it at all. Multitasking forces unnecessary stress and delay whilst completing the most mundane of tasks. The practice of multitasking is actually more harmful than productive.
Studies have shown that it hinders your ability to complete tasks effectively and leads to the deterioration of your mental abilities.
The word ‘multitasking’ is a myth, yet we all feel like we’re doing more than one thing at a time. What we’re actually doing is switching between tasks rapidly using little periods of time to jump from one thing to another.
Multitasking is seductive, it offers the promise of efficiency and productivity. But it forces unnecessary stress and delay into our day by making it impossible to give our full attention to any single task. It makes our workday ever-more fragmented and less effective.